For The Fun of It!

So, as my title states..., I am going to post a recent conversation between my mother and I, just for the fun of it. I mean, I;m living this shit why not share it? Thats how I feel sometimes and you have caught me in one of those days where I feel "Why the hell not?" So, here goes..., Enjoy and feel free to leave any comments on your perspective. :-). 




(My text will be this color and Mom will be this color) 


Who is Tiffany talking about?


Let me check. what post are you talking about?

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  The last couple
  
  
  she made a couple post the closer is about Alecia not too sure what the last one is about

and what Andrew commented on the last one


I guess he is talking about how she feels

• she has wanted to talk to Alecia but she won't talk. I still told her she should call you but after the last one she still thinks its all on her
  
  
  She can't start fixing or progressing if she doesn't make an attempt.

i know its hard though when the other party isn't talking.
haha! I am not going to try to bring up Alecia to you babe its ok hahahaha


I'm not talking about her

• I'm talking about Tiff and me
  
  
  oh I dunno there she thinks that your already against her
  • I tried getting her to call last night but Andrews family was there for the night
    
    
    well...., anything with me and her is between me and her..., I'm not in the Alecia thing, you all have brought me into it. I have listened to all and given suggestions from where I stand but I can't make anyone DO anything, it's up to each person. If she doesn't reach out or talk to me then it's no one but her own fault for how things are between us. She is torturing herself 

    and it's up to her to change it if she hates feeling that way. If she doesn't she cannot rightfully blame me
    
    
    true and I am starting to look at mine the same way
    • she doesn't blame you I don't think, she just feels like all is against her
    • because of who she is with
      
      
      Thats blaming me for her not talking to me. It's a stupid inane excuse
      
      
      I completely understand that part
      • like I said Tina and I are no where near an example because we were never close and I was not raised with her, Jr and I on the other hand are and even if we are at odds we still call each other and we have had plenty of arguments and disagreements but I know I can still depend on him and he I
        
        
        I don't take stupidity or excuses well....., regardless of what you both THINK goes on with Alecia. If you make excuses to not fix something you complain about instead of just doing, it pisses me off. You don't like it do something. I tell her the same thing but I cannot make her or anyone do anything
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          well baby I have done all but go hunt her down which is not a good idea to me
          
          
          But I still talk to her about any and all other things and don't have that looming over me because like I said it is not MY issue and if no one does anything I have no patience to listen to the complaining
          
          
          right
          
          
          I am telling you this for you but also for you to pass onto Tiffany
          
          
          she only calls when she wants something, she called Gma the other day to see if she would keep her dog for her
          
          
          everyone calls when they want something
          • I'm tired of hearing that
            
            
            just like the using Tiffs license thing call or come over just to do it. me too
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        that sounds very similar to what Sarah would say about people using people as friends
        
        
        sure does
        
        
        Friends use it each other for their own benefit whether it is for emotional support, hanging out for distraction, etc.
        • and no one really calls anymore just because. Everyone wants something
        • Tiff always wants things to. B

          ut you use it against Alecia just because your at odds with her and thats not right
          
          
          nope Tiff wants me to hang out with her alot even just to watch a movie at home

you label her and use it derogatory and that just keeps pushing farther away

• But you say that you can't because of Andrew
  
  
  nope we do it on the days he is working 

  or when he goes and does stuff with Joey
  
  
  she wants you to pay when you go somewhere, out? 

  thats using you
  
  
  Last Saturday it was me and her at the house watching 2 movies. they all do
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    I'm tired of hearing all that. Alecia because of what has transpired between you both is not in a place where she feels comfortable just hanging out. So this maybe is some of the only ways to connect with you and you end up throwing it back up badly
    
    
    ok like you said though she has to take that first step so she can either say she was right or its not that bad
  • what?
    • Your starting to make this a debate/fight. Just shut up and take it in. Fuck!
      
      
      like you mentioned do something about it don't keep using an excuse of well I can't go see mom or meet her somewhere because this may happen or that may happen.
      • oh ok see this is one sighted, you can tell me how uncomfortable she is telling you her reason she won't do anything but I can't defend myself and say she hasn't tried.
      • okay I can shut the fuck up and listen just wish I could get the same on my end
      • I have a doctors appointment so I will have to leave in like 5 min.
      • all I get from you is the things I need to do Sabrina, I do them maybe I don't give you an update when I do but I do.
    
    
    no you keep accusing me of siding with Alecia when things don't work. It's NOT my problem and you keep making it my problem. I can listen and do suggestions...., just like any friend would do but it doesn't solve the issue and you take it out on me when nothing works, you need to just let it alone. Don't give up completely but stop worrying and bitching about it ALL the time. Let things alone and MAYBE (emphasis on the word MAYBE) something will start happening
    
    
    the reason I feel that way is only because when you tell me how she feels about things you make it seem like its ok, and when I do the things you mentioned and try harder I don't get any support, or that is how it seems to me
    
    
    you can't force the more you force the quicker you push away
    
    
    yep and at the same time vice versa, you feel like well just forget it.
    
    
    Your going to keep on and fucking piss me off and hurt our relationship when it should have never been affected by all this in the first place. Your looking at this as only we resolve this or she has disowned us. It's not that black and white. You need to let go and stop looking at it so detrimental. Y

    our making Alecia and Tiffany's relationship and Alecia and my relationship your issue and problem 

    they are separate from you and you need not worry about them. I know you feel you should, but your taking on problems that are not yours and making problems out of nothing because you want some kind of justification.
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      Ok well, there you have it. I swear sometimes we could give the Kardashians a run for there money. Or at least make an equally interesting reality show!

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Cutie Crazy

While sitting and enjoying Chipotle, my 3 year old sits across from me, staring me down. Though he has just finished off a meal form McDonalds.

"I want some chips", he says.
I reply "They are spicy" (I do love my spicy!)

We go back and forth a few times, me reminding him that he has just eaten. Finally, I tell him that I will place him in the naughty spot if he keeps on.

"Those are chips, I want some" he says one more time
I stand up and approach him saying, "All right, you can go to the naughty spot."
Quickly he responds, "Fine, fine, fine! They are spicy!"

That little one sure knows how to put a smile on your face! I laughed so much after that. I never knwo what to expect!

Red Box

I wanted to share the magic of Red Box (incase you don't already know). It is way cheaper than blockbuster and you are charged on a nightly basis. If you are curious and want to check it out, just click the hyperlink above! You can get a free nights rental and try it out. Plus, you will be helping me as well, we are helping each other :-)! Thanks!

The Craziness Ensues!

It has been awhile. I know. Here are the events since I last posted:

We have relocated from Canada and are now stateside. We are still in the process of the move. The drive took us 5 days to get us to our destination and along the way we were able to stop to visit a friend and see Mt. Rushmore. Sight-seeing went better than I expected. Roo, my oldest, fell in love with Abraham Lincoln. They cannot wait to go back and take visiting family members to see it. We have been "stuck" in hotels since mid-April and it is driving me INSANE! Behold the light at the end of the tunnel..., we will have the keys to our house in a week! I am excited, though it will begin new aggravations (should we paint before we receive our household goods?) and stress (unpacking and setting up yet another home) but I believe sitting dormant for the last month has me looking forward to the challenges. That is all for the update for myself, we now move onto my close but extended family.


My mother has gone through, yet another dramatic divorce. It all started when she learned that my stepdad built and used a meth lab in their outside attic. Endangering my little brother was unacceptable, so she had him arrested and filed for a divorce. You can imagine the drama that went on. Then my sister's husband rolled my mom's car with both, my nephew and brother with him. Luckily no one was hurt and the vehicle repaired. My mom has thought of trying to move out here within the next year, I'm still not sure if that will happen. She craves for a new start and to get away from the associations the family has made, because the majority are not people you should be around. My sister, Tiffany, the one who's husband rolled the car, found out about our mom looking to move. Tiffany decided to go ahead and move farther south where her dad lives. This, of course, happened after the line of tornadoes hit the area and right before Mother's Day. Mom took it personally and more drama and back and forth with mom and Tiffany. Then before you know it, my other sister, Alecia got into on the premise of "protecting" Tiffany and her husband, Andrew. Well..., let me tell you that (in my opinion) Andrew is a jerk and no should take up for him. He has always been a druggie, addicted to pain medication, he thinks he is better than everyone else, he runs his mouth yelling and arguing with all of us (we each had a turn with him) and Tiffany just lets him go but will not let you dish it out with him. Tiffany enables his behavior and it is just so FRUSTRATING!! Anyway, that was to just give you some insight. Now, after all this Tiffany and mom have made up, Alecia and mom are still on the fritz, mom is contemplating working things out with my stepdad if and when he completes rehab, and Andrew is still a jackass.

Now, some of you may wonder after all that happened what there is to say about my mom getting back with my stepdad..., well there are alot of people who give her crap about it, my sisters included. Me? All I have to say is (the way I look at it with Tiffany and Andrew) is I'm not marrying him. I am not expected to put up with his crap, deal with him everyday, and it's not my business what they do. Do what makes you happy and we can still be close. I may have certain restrictions (i.e. with Andrew, if they were to come visit, he cannot come into my house) but as long as you don't feel the need to remind people that you hate who they are with and you can continue your relationship with just you and that person...., it's doable.


Well, that about sums it up, I know there will be those who are unhappy with what I said. I do not intend to start anything, It's my blog and I write it as I see it.

A Change?

I have been thinking...., while sometimes these are dangerous words, I don't think they are in this case! ;-). I want to try to "re-invent" the way my family and I live. We don't have lots of extravagant things or all the "latest" but we do have alot, more than enough. There was a blog I read and I can't seem to get it out of my head, it was about living simply; not going without but living with only want you need with a few higher priced items that fit what you like or do, for example an Apple laptop because you blog, do photography, make music, or movies therefore it would be a good investment or a more "expensive" treat, but you would use it.

I have been struggling with my children with cleaning up after ourselves, taking care of our things, and being responsible. So the blog topic keeps coming back to me and I realized we can do without some of the things we have and it would cut down on the clutter and mess; which is a great selling point for me because I hate looking at the clutter and mess and I feel overwhelmed to deal with it all, I am THE only one in my household that cares to do anything about it.

With all this in mind, my 9 year anniversary is looming around the corner along with my birthday and the holidays, so I got to thinking......, "How can I accomplish living simply and making all these dates memorable?"  I would like to start with my anniversary, but I have no idea, what kind of things we (my husband and I) can do to celebrate or what to give each other that we don't have to spend money on but can do the job of giving each other a gift that is appreciated and remembered? The best gifts are those that are homemade, come from the heart, and have more thought in it than money, right?! So, if you have any suggestions or ideas, I would appreciate the help!

School, School, and More School

So far I have only posted about my crazy extended family..., today I need to post about me. The reason I haven't posted isn't because I have run out of crazy, but because I am so behind and stressed.

I homeschool two out of three of my children, because the youngest is two. I am also enrolled in college. I have put off going to school and finally decided to start, this is my second semester in. I decided to homeschool after the second one started (not throughly thought out). It is my fault that I let my own studies fall behind, so now I am frantically trying to catch up before a test and paper is due. The homeschool curriculum I use is not a bad one, it is actually good, but not for us. I am teaching (sitting at a table with pencil and paper, my children are) for 9 hours not including lunch break. I cannot live and teach like this. I want it to be fun and exciting and different than sitting in a classroom all day at a desk. I don't even have time to look up and tweak or lesson plans because of my school, keeping up with a house (cleaning), teaching, doctors appointments, oh and cooking.

I talked with a friend today about some things they do with their homeschool and it lead to why exactly I am in school. She asked me, "What is the point in putting yourself through this stress for a piece of paper?". I had no response. I initially thought that it's because I love learning, I love being in the kind of environment where you interact and discuss to learn. Granted online schooling you don't get that the same, but I wanted to start somewhere. Her question goes over and over in my mind. Is it really pointless? Should I drop the extra stress in order to commit fully to my children's education, while putting mine on the back burner, again? I mean, I don't really have a "goal" in order to have that piece of paper to show to potential job places. I always wanted to be a mom, to stay home and care for my kids, be readily available to them for the time(s) that they need me. Sure, there are plenty of things I am interested in, like photography, reading/editing, writing (and you see how much I get to do that); but is the degree, a piece of paper, worth what I enjoy? Can't I do all these things without a degree, and be good at them?

I have to think more on it, but should I quit after this semester?

Guys, Mom, and a Boat

About a week ago, my mom and I went on a cruise. A Twilight cruise to be exact. But this post isn't about the Twilight or the cruise, it's about something that happened along the way. To understand this better you have to know that I have always been a big girl. Since I was about 7 I have been REALLY overweight, I managed to loose some when I was about 16. Tack on having 3 kids and it put me back over the top, weight-wise. Then, at the beginning of this year something sparked and I started managing what I ate and working out, alot. I managed to drop past my lowest weight I had ever been at 16 which was 138 to a now 115 (this is a healthy weight because of my height, I am very short, 5 ft to be exact). I have never been "popular' with the guys as a love interest, just hanging out as friends; usually because they liked my friends. Now that you have that bit of info, I can get to the point.

Apparently, if you ask my mom, I was a "hot commodity" to the staff of guys on the ship. One in particular was a photographer (the ones that go around and take pictures of the events and such for you to buy later). My mom thought he was the cutest, sweetest thing and he "was so taken with me" (her words, not mine). One evening, after a little to drink, my mom wants to talk to me about how I am treating this guy, etc. Now, in all honesty, I have talked to him when he stops to say hi and I am sociable with him (as anyone else, I am a very social person) but I didn't insinuate or suggest anything (I am married!) nor did I lead him on in any way. However, my mom started saying things like: I "shouldn't lead him on if I wasn't going to follow through with anything" and "he is so sweet, don't break his heart, he really likes you", blah blah blah. Now I am NOT stupid, I mean these guys are on a ship for months and months at a time, they are gonna sleep around (not all but most, and we even had some of them told us this).  I am flabbergasted, I mean SERIOUSLY?!!! I am married, happily and to me, this is out of nowhere!! I go on to tell her all these things and she replies with "I know that you aren't use to this kind of attention (which is true) so, I don't want you to jump on a guy because he is showing you attention and you don't know how to flirt. You should be more playful with them." Again, my jaw drops! Didn't she just contradict herself? UGH!!! I mean I don't get where all of this came from! I was being nice, just like I am with anyone else and she jumps on me for not doing anything with this guy..., then proceeds to say that she doesn't want me to do anything just because of the attention and I should flirt and be more playful!?!

Now, I love my mom, I do. She just has these moments (usually with the help of alcohol). My sisters and I have learned to say whatever in the moment then to just let it go. After the conversation I was a little miffed, so I went to the event that was going on that night and along the way wanna know what I saw? This guy, this sweet, cute guy was all out flirting with another girl. See!!!! I told you, they do that and probably to every girl they find pretty! The next day, my mom didn't really remember the whole thing.So, I reminded her and clued her in on the fact that the guy wasn't at all upset at the fact that I didn't jump him, there were plenty of other girls on the ship.